Grandparents have a magical essence that allows them to love, truly unconditionally, their grandchildren. This is the reward for the years of hard work raising their grandchildren’s parents. Following some simple guidelines and exploring creative activities makes for a winning situation for everyone involved.
Parents and Grandparents and the Rules
No matter the side of the fence, it is common for grandparents and parents to disagree on parenting style. Times change, new ideas are introduced and often a divide occurs. It is helpful when parents are clear about issues of importance and equally helpful when they relax on issues that are not as pressing.
Good, pleasant communication is key and expressing love and a sense of humor can save the day. Phrasing and tone often influence outcomes, so speak with respect.
Grandparenting Difficulties, Arguments and Solutions
When moments arise that cause strife, try and keep in mind that finding a solution is the goal. Too often past grievances, frequently having nothing to do with the present problem, are brought to the table and rehashed. Stay on topic and address only the present challenge. Be polite, respectful and out of earshot of the kids.
Parents should realize that one day they to will be grandparents and may face disagreements with their own children. They need to ask themselves if the problem is truly serious and if it is ongoing or a one-time occurrence.
Activities for Multigenerational Fun
Grandparents generally love spending time with the grandkids but at times a chasm appears. A lack of common ground often due to the onset of teen years can screech to halt previous fun time with grandkids. Knowing how to bridge a gap can be as easy as exploring new activities. The lists below, spanning diverse ages, offer ideas.
Preschoolers
- Make home made play dough
- Cook simple dishes
- Read and attend the library
- Wash windows or the car
- Sing silly songs
- Play Go Fish
- Walk around the neighborhood
- Garden
Teens
- Take the teen and a friend to a movie
- Ice-cream
- Fishing
- A play, opera, ballet
- Ballgame
- Shopping and lunch
- Charity work
- Church or Temple
Teens are notorious for their connectedness to their friends, so including a buddy on some outings can be fun. Following common sense and not bringing up potentially embarrassing memories is wise as is stepping back and allowing space. Privacy is important to teens and keeping a distance from their Facebook or texting is as simple as the privacy grandparents clung to in their teen years.
Successful Grandparenting
The presence of encouraging and supporting grandparents is a great help to families and even when grandchildren grow, connectedness can be maintained. With a comfortable respect, understanding of space and commitment to relationship, multigenerational moments are created.
Teri Clifton - Teri Clifton is a passionate traveler who loves striking out both alone and with her four children in search of adventure. Believing that ...
